I remember standing with Joanna, my elementary school friend, on the sidewalk between our homes. I shared with her that everyone in my extended family had divorced except my grandparents on my mother’s side and that I wanted to have more longevity in my relationships when I was older. I remember that she shared that she would have enjoyed fewer scheduled activities and that she wasn’t enjoying that her feet were bloody and curled from her ballet shoes. It struck me then that I would offer my children choices. I valued choices, if not earlier, then from that moment onwards. I also devoted myself to understanding human communication.
Collaborative or compassionate communication (CC) is about relationships (family, work, school, community, and our inner relationship with ourselves). It is also about choice. It balances interdependence with autonomy. I love to share the beauty of this communication with others.
I also really enjoy CC’s simplicity and versatility. CC can, for example, be used for interpersonal relationships, performance feedback, marketing, and negotiation. It’s one process with many applications.
Over the last 25 years, I have trained in facilitation, interest-based negotiation, mediation, and organizational behaviour. These have all informed my practice of compassionate communication, a consciousness process which I discovered in 2015. Since discovering it, I have taken over 50 days of training in compassionate communication.
I practice collaborative communication daily in my relationships, including with my husband and four children. In addition, I have organized peer practice groups; offered small group trainings to over 400 parents, educators, and psychologists in Canada, the United States, Europe, and Egypt; and do informal and formal coaching. Please see some testimonials on this site to hear how my work is received.
My formal university training includes a Master of Business Administration degree from the University of Alberta, Canada (concentration: Organizational Behaviour), and a Master of Laws from the University of Amsterdam (concentration: International Law).
I have been teaching and training in various capacities for over 20 years:
My training and coaching is straight-forward, practical, empathic, and centered on current interests of my clients. Since I believe understanding key concepts supports learning new processes more quickly, I create structured lesson and learning plans, leaving space to stay with clients’ interests in the moment. In addition, I design custom training tools to support understanding. In fact, I’m currently working on a training toolkit for communication practitioners.
Elke Haggerty, LL.M., MBA, CNVC Certification Candidate. Elke has been on the communication track for over 20 years, focusing on facilitation, interest-based negotiation, mediation, organizational behaviour, and parenting. Nonviolent communication (NVC) resonated deeply with her when she discovered it in 2015. She remembers her daughter stomping down the stairs and saying “no” after being asked to help; instead of hearing that she didn’t matter, Elke recognized her daughter’s needs (e.g. choice, relaxation) and it transformed how she felt and responded. Since then, she has taken over 50 days of training with certified trainers. Her training and coaching sessions are interactive, structured, warm, and safe spaces of exploration and discovery. Her vision for our internal, family, and work conversations is to “Create Change, One Conversation at a Time.” Her areas of focus are relationships with children (including “bullying”) and individuals on the journey to self-acceptance. (780) 933-5542.
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